Divorced parents with children looking for a clean getaway from the ex are going to find that they are stuck.  Disputes involving the care and day to day activities of the children will certainly occur, thus  necessitating communication between parents.  This can lead to arguments and uncomfortable situations, and that is why I always recommend that my divorce clients with children develop a solid parenting plan.

A parenting plan is an agreement between the parents stating the time the children will be with each parent, how decisions will be made and how parenting responsibilities will be shared. The plan addresses such matters as how the children will spend the shared time to include days, weeks, vacations, birthdays, holidays, and other times important to the family.

Tracy Achen of WomansDivorce.com discusses several items you should consider putting in your parenting plan such as access to medical and school records, when and where parents will drop the children off for visitation, and recreational activities.

If you have a parenting plan in place, you will avoid conflict for years to come.

For more information, or to set up an appointment, please call my office at (205) 933-9451.


I have the pleasure to be involved with a wonderful workshop series called Second Saturday: What Women Need to Know About Divorce.  This free workshop includes a panel of professionals including divorce attorneys, mental health professionals, and financial advisers, and it happens on the second Saturday of each month (hence the name!).   Candace Bahr and  Ginita Wall started this series of workshops in California, and it has spread nationwide.  It’s an invaluable resource for women who are thinking about or are in the middle of getting a divorce.

Click here for more info on the upcoming Alabama workshop.

You can learn more about other Second Saturday workshops here.

Money talks

June 23, 2010

What are your partner’s views on money and spending?  We all know (or should know) that you need to know that before you become husband and wife, but the conversation should not end there.

Jason Alderman, a director at Visa, recently published this piece about the conversations people should have before they get married.  But what about after you say, “I do?”

Although money may not be the biggest cause of divorce, Alderman says that candid conversation will help your marriage stay strong and will save you money in the long run.  He says the couple should discuss “credit histories, your savings and spending philosophies, and your long-term financial goals as a couple.”

Keep the lines of communication about money open, and you and your partner are more likely to live happily ever after.

If you are interested in setting up an appointment, please call my office at (205) 933-9451.